Attunement & Intuition
Listen, The Answers are Inside of You
Horses are masters of attunement, authenticity, and intuition and can teach us how
to attune and strengthen our intuition. I can’t think of a better partner than the horse
to teach us and show us the way!
Intuition is the ability to understand something immediately, without the need for conscious reasoning. It is something that one knows or considers likely from instinctive feeling rather than conscious reasoning. This means we feel before we think about what we are feeling and what we feel is a subconscious, unconscious knowing.
Just a muscle needs activation and growth, so does our intuition. Intuition needs conscious attention and cultivating.
Trusting our intuition is how we live authentically and live our best lives. Our knowingness and awareness will expand the more we hone this skill, listening to our intuition and with that, our path going forward will be easier to see and navigate. Decisions will come easier and so will living a harmonious life. The first step is being aware, conscious, paying attention. From there a conscious evolution will take place that will naturally develop.
According to Dr. Orloff, scientists believe intuition operates through the entire right side of our brain, the brain’s hippocampus and through our gut (digestive system has neurons as well). And this is where it gets interesting for us ladies.
Women’s corpus collosum, the connective white matter that connects our left and right brain hemispheres together, is thicker than men’s. This more substantial brain superhighway gives us women better and faster abilities to access each hemisphere, further integrating our emotion and gut feelings with the more logical left hemisphere into our decision-making process.
Basically, women’s brains have superpowers and are optimized for rapid intuitive decision making. “Women are also psychologically more in touch with their emotions (perhaps because they’ve been given more cultural permission to be this way) and are more likely to integrate hunches, emotional ‘hits’ about people and logic. Because men have a thinner corpus collosum they are more compartmentalized in their thinking and less about to move back and forth from intuition to logic.”
Attunement is the ability to connect with another’s experience empathetically, mindfully, and somatically. It is mindful engagement of the emotional, somatic, and cognitive sensing that is used together to help us tune into, connect to, another in the moment.
Attunement is also the process by which we form deeply connected and meaningful relationships.
Dr. Dan Siegel says, "When we attune with others, we allow our own internal state to shift, to come to resonate with the inner world of another. This resonance is at the heart of the important sense of “feeling felt” that emerges in close relationships. Children need attunement to feel secure and to develop well, and throughout our lives we need attunement to feel close and connected.”
Attunement might look like an adult seeing a baby crying, recognizing that the baby is hungry, and then picking up the baby to feed her. In an adult relationship, attunement might be an adult who knows that “I’m fine” doesn’t actually mean that and digs a little deeper to find out what’s going on.
When working with kids, attunement comes across as genuinely caring about them. It’s not just asking about their day as a courtesy, but truly listening and caring about their response. It’s about noticing when a kid comes into the room in a bad mood, or when they’re unusually quiet, or when they’re struggling to focus.
Same goes for our horses. If you know horses are sentient beings, you know they have deep feelings and need close relationships to feel emotionally, physically, and socially secure.
Attunement is how we develop our intuition. The clarity of your mind, body, and spirit creates a pathway to your heart’s intuitive wisdom. It provides a profound shift that helps you approach situations with more emotional balance, compassion, clarity, and personal confidence.
The following four practices help us attune and develop our intuition:
Grounding, centering stilling ourselves
Somatic Experiencing & Embodiment